but i guess i should define poor. one or both of us has been in school since we got married. meaning at any point when either of us was able to work full time... we weren't making much. but i'll get back to this later.
it's really easy to judge. really easy. charlie and i were both so blessed. both sets of our parents felt college (undergrad) was so important that they saved and put us through college... and paid for housing and food and cars along the way. that's pretty huge. and puts us in pretty remarkable situations. situations most people could only dream of having. and, until i started grad school and excluding our trailer, even with the only full-time job we've collectively had being a close-to-minimum-wage job... we didn't have any debt.
it would be very easy for us to think we did this on our own. and we partly did.. we're conservative and spend carefully. we don't buy ourselves expensive things... we're always thinking about the future. i was able to get in-state tuition and half of the rest of it covered with an assistantship. BUT. did we "pull ourselves up by our own bootstraps"? did we do this by our own power and internal will?
not really. we were born into really fortunate families. we were given good educations. we have good role models and amazing support systems. we have encouraging parents who made sacrifices for us. we haven't earned a ton of money since we've been married... but we are very wealthy. charlie has had land and employment in his backyard.
so yes, our decisions have been important... but no. we can't take credit for the hand of cards we were dealt.
and sometimes a little debt for school is okay... i'm so thankful i can take out loans so i can learn how to be a nutritionist and do what i love!
i can't think of a smooth way to end this blog. sooooooo abrupt stop now.
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